Death & Rebirth of Your Identity: The Process of Evolution

Death & Rebirth of Your Identity: The Process of Evolution

Here’s a simple question you can ask yourself to reveal your current perceived identity that you’re holding onto, which is precisely what you must let go of to advance to your next level.

Whatever goes in the blank below reflects your perceived identity:

“I will do whatever it takes to achieve my goal just don’t ask me to _____ because that’s just not me.”

E.g. in Shrek:

I will do whatever it takes to win the love of the princess just don’t ask me to open myself up to the princess because that’s just not me.

Shrek’s identity = I don’t need anybody; it’s not me with the problem, it’s the world.

E.g. in The Titanic (Rose):

I will do whatever it takes for freedom and adventure just don’t ask me to give up my millionaire husband because that’s just not me.

Rose’s identity = my mother and I can’t survive without a wealthy man to support us.

E.g. Myself:

I will do whatever it takes to achieve my goal just don’t ask me to risk embarrassing myself in front of others or look stupid because that’s just not me.

Identity = I’m smart so I am supposed to know all the answers and therefore not allowed to make mistakes.

We often form our identity to protect ourselves from a deep wound from the past.

This identity “protects” us BUT it also imprisons us.

It has got you where you are today, but it won’t won’t take you where you want to go next.

Death & Rebirth of your identity is the process of your evolution.

Until the final stage where your identity (ego) dissolves completely and you live in the true essence of who you are.

Create a great day today.

Your friend,
James Melouney

Conscious Language Tips

Conscious Language Tips

Coming off a very powerful two-day Six Figure Mentor and Digital Experts Academy event in New Jersey, I want to share with you a tidbit of what we discussed.

Conscious Language tips

  • Stop saying “Have to” and start saying “Get to” – You don’t “have” to do anything
  • Instead of saying “But” say “And” – “But” is like an eraser; it negates everything you said before it
  • Consider your use of words like “Unbelievable, insane, crazy” – these words imply what you’re experiencing is unusual for you. Re-frame to “This is how my life operates now.”
  • When you receive a compliment or are acknowledged by somebody, don’t deflect it. Instead, say: “Thank you, I fully receive that.” (If you don’t feel worthy to fully receive a simple compliment, what does that say about your worth to receive other gifts of life?).
  • If you feel afraid to interrupt or frequently say “sorry” after you speak up, this implies a conscious/subconscious belief of: “I don’t trust that what I contributed was in good time or valuable.” Take some time to look within and investigate why you may consciously or subconsciously believe this. When you see yourself as somebody of worth, the rest of the world will follow suit.

Other Tidbits

  • Allow life to happen and step out of the way!
  • Take action after you receive intuitive thought
  • The universe sends you only what you can handle
  • Any part of you you don’t love will be your thorn
  • The world isn’t messed up; it’s how we respond to it
  • Respond with anger and we perpetuate what we dislike
  • Respond with love and we can change the world
  • If you act from a place of “life is bad” you won’t get great results
  • Mastery takes patience
  • Confusion means you’re learning // processing

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

Want to Change the World? React with Love

Want to Change the World? React with Love

There once lived a nomadic tribe in the remotest areas of Africa.

If a tribe member was caught stealing or inflicting harm on others (or their property), the tribe formed a circle around the perp.

Then, starting with the chief, each person shared positive things about the “wrong-doer.”

Sometimes, they shared something positive about the person’s character, skills or talents.

Other times they reminded the person of the positive and caring behaviour they had exhibited in the past.

How do you think the wrong-doer responded?

How would you would respond?

The reason people do “bad” things is because they’re either (1) ignorant of what their actions truly mean and/or (2) they’re hurting badly on the inside (and often aren’t consciously aware of it).

Reacting with anger or hatred only adds fuel to the fire.

Reacting with love and compassion is the only way forward.​​​​​​

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

The Two Culprits of Procrastination

The Two Culprits of Procrastination

There are two things you get to look at if you’re struggling with procrastination.

(1) Clarity of Vision

(2) Sense of Urgency

Without a clear and compelling vision don’t expect to be pulled toward your goals.

Without a sense of urgency to realize that vision you also can’t expect to be pulled toward your goals.

And if your goals aren’t pulling you, achieving them is like pushing a boulder up a mountain.

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

Are You Asking the Right Questions to Achieve Your Goals?

Are You Asking the Right Questions to Achieve Your Goals?

When it comes to achieving your dreams and goals, there are different types of questions you can ask.

Most people fall into the trap of asking question number one.

I encourage you to avoid that trap and begin asking yourself question number two or three.

Here are the Three Questions:

Question 1: “What do I want and how can I get it?”

Question 2: “What or Who do I have to become so that it’s normal to have what I want?”

Or, even better:

Question 3: “What or Who do I have to become so that I can make the greatest positive contribution possible to this planet while I’m here?”

Ask the right questions and you’ll get the right answers — the answers you need to start leading your best life.

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

Would You Take the Road Less Travelled?

Would You Take the Road Less Travelled?

One day, if we’re lucky, we will be old and grey and falling apart.

And we will think back on the life we lived.

We will think back on the adventures we had, the adventures we missed, the path we walked, the risks we took.

Did we live our life well? we might ask ourselves.

Did we live our life boldly enough?

When two roads diverged in a yellow wood, did we take the one less traveled by? and did that make all the difference?

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

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