Four Questions to Live Intelligently

Four Questions to Live Intelligently

I’ve been in Bali for the past few days and when my Balinese hotel driver dropped me at my resort I learned that he earns $160 per month.

This was a happy guy, a good guy, and a damn hard worker.

The unfortunate reality for him is that his earning potential is inherently limited by his job: No matter how much harder he works, his income can’t go up by much as long as he continues doing what he currently does.

Another similar problem people face in life is that their income can go up, it just won’t go up as quickly as they would like it to!

Chances are you already know money isn’t everything and that after a certain income threshold is reached — around $75,000 per year — studies show that earning more money does little to increase our happiness.

That said, if you’re interested in an intelligent and conscious life, wouldn’t you agree that such a life requires you to understand:

1. The type of lifestyle you desire;

2. How much income is required to support that lifestyle;

3. How long it will take your current income producing activity/activities to reach that income level;

and

4. Whether you are content with that time-frame?

In other words, how many years are you away from earning the income required for you to live the type of lifestyle you desire and are you happy with that time-frame?

This is the exact same question I asked myself one day while commuting to work back in 2015.

I worked out that I’d have to climb the corporate ladder for at least another 10 years to have a chance at earning the type of income I wanted to earn.

10 years wasn’t the main issue for me — it was 10 years of doing something that I didn’t find fulfilling that made me really reconsider the path that I was currently walking down, which led me to eventually leave my job and stumble into the world of entrepreneurship through the training and education provided by Six Figure Mentors.

Wherever you happen to be in your life right now, I encourage you to ask yourself those four questions:

1. What type of lifestyle do you desire?

2. How much income do you need to support that lifestyle?

3. With your current income producing activity/activities, how long will it take for you to earn that income?

4. Are you happy with that time-frame?

Asking ourselves these types of questions can be confronting at times, but always remember that ignorance is bliss only until it catches up with you!

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

Are You Focused on the Content or Context of Your Life?

Are You Focused on the Content or Context of Your Life?

 

Do you focus more on the Content or Context of your life?

During my early twenties, I focused primarily on Content: The money I wanted to earn, the cities I wanted to travel to, the type of work I wanted to be doing, the lovers and friends I wanted to have…

And this turned out to be not too bad of a strategy:

  • Focusing on the type of work I wanted to do led me to write and publish a bestselling book (The Art of Success);
  • Focusing on the amount of money I wanted to earn gave me the courage to step out of the corporate world and into the world of entrepreneurship;
  • And focusing on the adventures I wanted to have kept me in wonderment of this truly magnificent world that we inhabit.

But, truth be told, I didn’t feel amazing in my day to day life. And if you’ve ever been to some of the poorer parts of the world, like rural towns in Asia, India, or South America, you would have seen what I saw when I visited Vietnam in December 2015: Families and children in absolute poverty… but with brighter smiles than almost everybody I see walking the streets of Sydney, New York, Toronto — name your city. And certainly brighter smiles than almost every high-powered, high-paid executive I ever worked with.

It makes you think, doesn’t it?

How can these people be so happy with so little? …

Yet another year passed before I really came to terms with the fact that the Content in my life wasn’t leading me to a deep, sustainable happiness, which is when I began shifting my focus from Content to Context: How did I want to feel, regardless of what I had or what I was doing or what was happening in life? And as you might guess, I started feeling better, a lot better in fact! But my productivity and action took a turn for the worse…

This bothered me because for all of my life up until that point I had always been very disciplined and this had served me well in terms of achieving what I wanted to achieve. Now here I was, a heck of a lot happier, but operating at about 25% of the capacity I was used to operating at!

Looking back on that experience, I now understand what was happening: I was simply focusing most of my time and energy on learning a new skill — a skill that nobody had ever even mentioned to me during my many years at School and University.

What was that skill?

It was the skill of being aware of my “state” (i.e. how I was feeling) and how to shift my state whenever I wanted to, without suppressing my emotions. (Quick note: Never suppress your emotions — this will lead only to much greater problems down the line).

This is something I’m still working on, but I have reached a point where I’m able to feel good pretty much most of the time… and the kicker is that now I’m able to focus on the Content I want in my life (i.e. all the things I want to do and have and experience) while maintaining an elevated state of feeling good regardless of what is happening.

So what’s the moral of this story ?

Focus on both the Content and the Context in your life.

  • The Content gives you an orientation — a direction you want to head in so that you can have and do the things you want to have and do.
  • The Context allows you to manage how you feel, regardless of where you are at on your journey.

If you’ve been too focused on either one of these — like I was until recently — all I can say is that from my experience it is so worth the time and effort to learn about the other side of the spectrum. You’ll be a more complete Human Being for it.

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

What Is The Dip and Why Should You Care?

What Is The Dip and Why Should You Care?

What if I told you that sometimes things have to get worse before they get better in your life?

The Dip is what I call that period of time where things get worse before they get better.

Take, for example, learning how to snowboard. For 1-3 days, you’re in The Dip. You’re on your bum 90% of the time. Your backside is wet and cold and in constant pain. Your wrists feel like they may not hold up the next time you fall over. There’s snow all down your jacket and in your gloves… You feel completely out of control and that you might possibly be the worst snowboarder to have ever lived…

But then… around day 4… you begin climbing out of The Dip. You start falling less. You feel more in control. You’re linking up turns. And for the first time in 4 days, you start to enjoy snowboarding!

That’s when the people who never tried or gave up too soon look at you and say, “Wow, I wish I could do that,” not recognizing The Dip that you went through to get to where you are.

This is a critical part of life to understand…

Sometimes, if we want to move forward in our life, things may have to get worse before they get better… We may have to take a step backward — or sideways — before we take two steps forward.

Let me give you an example which is closer to home… because this is exactly what happened to me in my life…

When I left my job back in June 2016, I went from earning a stable 6-figure income to earning nothing.

Fortunately, I had some savings from the past few years that I could use while I was trying to transition my life.

But even with those savings, from July through to October I had to eat some humble pie and do some low pay side jobs to get a little cash flow while I was trying to get my online business up and running.

Then in November I made my first sale online — I made $120.

In December, that increased to $1,140.

January was pretty similar with $1,580 in sales.

In February, sales almost doubled to $3,080.

And then in March, they shot up to $16,855 — far more than what I used to earn in my 6-figure stable income job.

The Dip for me was from July to March. A period of uncertainty, doubt, confusion, worry, stress… but also a period of excitement for the new life of financial independence and freedom I was creating.

Now I’m in a fortunate position to scale my business to income levels which I would have only been able to attain with another 15+ years climbing up the corporate ladder…

But I had to take a step backward before I went forward. And that’s just the reality of life sometimes.

I’m more than happy to answer any of your questions if you’re looking to start an online business and create more wealth, security, and freedom in your life.

Just shoot me an email at: James@JamesMelouney.com

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney

5 Steps to Freedom and Conscious Creation

5 Steps to Freedom and Conscious Creation

Kétség is the Hungarian word for “Despair.” It means two-ness. Despair (Des-pair; Two-ness) arises when you are not in unity with your higher self.

I assert that there’s a part of you that knows what you truly want, who you truly want to become, and the quickest way for you to get there. And every time you feel despair, this is perfect feedback that you’re acting out of alignment with your higher self and have veered off the quickest path to where you want to go.

There’s nothing right or wrong, good or bad about feeling despair — it is what it is. However, there are disempowering and empowering ways to deal with it. And today I want to share with you an empowering model for dealing with any of your emotions.

I came across this incredibly powerful 5 step process in Marci Lock’s materials. Marci — alongside Tony Robbins — is the only other coach I know who charges one million dollars per year to her top tier clients. (She has over five of them.) If you’re serious about improving your life, it’s advice worth taking.

Five Steps to Freedom & Conscious Creation (Dialogue with self)

Step 0: Breathe

As soon as you feel your body tense up or your stomach tighten, stop and breathe.

Step 1: Notice what you are feeling

Conscious languaging to use: Point to yourself and say “I notice I’m feeling _____”

E.g. I notice I’m feeling overwhelmed.

Step 2: Understand why you are feeling that way

Conscious languaging to use: “This came up for me because ______”

E.g. This came up for me because I’m running behind schedule and I’ve got so many things to do today and nothing is going to plan right now.

Step 3: Express what you truly want

Conscious languaging to use: “What I really want is _____”

E.g. What I really want is to do the very best I can and to be in a state of fun, ease, play and joy.

Step 4: Identify “the truth” or a new belief/perception/thought that empowers you to get what you truly want

Conscious languaging to use: “The truth of the matter is ____ ”

E.g. The truth of the matter is that overwhelm isn’t going to help me do the very best I can or to be in a state of fun, ease, play and joy… Fully accepting exactly where I am and becoming fully present is going to help me get what I want.

Step 5: Align your state/vibration and identify what you now get to do to get what you truly want

Conscious languaging to use: “I now get to ______ ”

Note: Before you take any action, shift your state to fun and ease and joy and excitement. (Take 5 minutes and go for a walk, meditate, listen to music, etc. if you need to.)

E.g. (feeling joy, ease, fun and play): “I now get to fully accept where I am and to be fully present, focusing only on the next inch, then the next inch and the next inch until I’ve made the mile. And I get to do this in a state of fun, ease, play and joy.”

During this process, listen to your body. Red flags are heaviness and “negative” emotions. Positive signs are joyful tingles all over and a feeling of lightness.

A commitment that will change your life faster than anything else:

If you want dramatic transformation in as short a time as possible, make the commitment that from today onwards, every time you feel out of alignment with your higher self (that means every time you aren’t feeling joy or excitement or pleasure or happiness or ease), immediately go through all five steps of the above process so you can return to alignment.

And if you’d like to see how this process of conscious creation plays out in a two-way dialogue just reply to this email and let me know.

Until next time.

Your friend,
James Melouney